In Observance of Conflict: Finding Comfort in the Chaos

Our Human Science and Our Human Spirit were naturally designed to work together

We spend a lot of time trying to avert conflict in our lives, whether we are aware of it or not. (There’s clearly a subset of us who appear to live for it, but look closely and you will find a reactive effect on loop). We have developed a strong belief that disagreements bring things that we would rather not feel, like pain and suffering. From there, our focus tries to reach anything else, knowing all the while that most conflict will not resolve on its own. Conflict avoidance is both a style and a choice. I seek to energize the choice.

Ignoring conflict causes us to breed energetic debris; trapping feelings of shame, guilt and general negativity in our bodies. This happens organically and often unknowingly. Absent perspective, it can seem easier to avoid the things that we believe will create new issues. It has become a natural human response to put off challenging conversations, choices, and situations for a better time, which ultimately creates more friction.

Conflict is supposed to make us uncomfortable. It exists as an agent for environmental transformation. And somehow we have wholly forgotten that purpose. Human brains have done such a bang-up job distorting the concept of conflict that we are hard-pressed to see resolution, or how resolving deep issues would enhance our lives. It’s not because we are being stupid, as it might appear to others – there is simply too much unsettled fear in play for people to see very far in any direction.

Our human tool kits are missing the instructions that I must assume we lost along the way. Perhaps they were so simple we thought we’d remember? We all struggle to recognize the real help available to us. This is especially true when we are feeling stressed or living with trauma, and even more so if the ghost of an old wound is still rattling around our psyche.

In that mode, our values, ideals and intentions take a backseat to our swirling emotions as we try to demand the things we deserve in an effort to set and/or protect our personal boundaries. Good luck with that. Those boundaries are nebulous and practically unenforceable, energetically.

These behaviors find us stirring the pot when we mean to do the exact opposite. As we establish a safe practice for evaluating our personal and collective conflicts, we see the catharsis in getting to the other side of problems. Feeling stuck energies changing form in real time becomes exciting, whatever that metamorphosis may bring. Skeptical? Watch the process for a while. Notice how emotion will supersede reasoning when it isn’t grounded in something value-based. Wow, right?!

Our age, skill sets, approach to life, physical strength, endurance, flexibility, mental acuity, ability to focus, breath control, compassion, perception of humanity, ability to forgive and capacity to accept things we don’t like ought to receive a regular review, because we are always changing.

We have no way of truly knowing what comes next, and that is precisely why we benefit from establishing a baseline comfort in conflict: life has no guarantee for any of us.

Clearing old energetic debris provides us with freshly tended ground that remains creatively fertile, and ready to receive the next set of intentions we dare to place upon its horizon. The hands of science may hold the atom, but it is our willingness to move through the discomfort of conflict, with open curiosity, that decides whether our internal sun breaks through the clouds.

Creative energy is waiting there – vibrant, active, and ready to play the moment we start looking… Feel it moving through your body right now. Let stuck places soften.

Breathe deeply – feeling your raw material rearranging itself into something (at least perspectively) more WHOLE.

Human powers activate.